This is also a good time to point out that hot dudes crying isn’t the same thing as manpain, which is a term coined by fans to describe a fictional man whose personality, relationships, and narrative arc are defined by a dark, angsty past. There’s often a woman sidekick (or a dead woman character) whose main story purpose is to fix the manpained character, or give him a vengeful purpose. Manpain is trauma that looms entirely too large in the story, and may revolve around the character’s obsession with masculinity itself. We’ve heard this story so many times that it causes more fatigue than empathy as a viewer. Leo in Inception has manpain; Leo in Romeo + Juliet is a hot dude crying. Hot dudes crying, as a genre, is also not equivalent to trauma porn, which is exploitative of grief and often gratuitously violent, too.