There’s something that most of us want a lot more of in the bedroom. No, it’s not oral sex (well, it’s not just oral sex). It’s foreplay. One 2004 study of 152 straight cis men and women found that both genders wanted, on average, about 20 minutes of foreplay — but were only getting around 10 minutes. Another study, this one from 2017, found that cis women of any sexual orientation were most likely to orgasm if the encounter included deep kissing, manual genital stimulation (aka fingering), and oral sex.